On all other occasions - give of yourself

There I was, in Spar, marvelling at the array of Jelly Tot options to pick from (when did this happen? Jelly Tots in the shape of tools, musical instruments, animals, berry tots, yogi tots … search as I may, I simply couldn’t find Jelly Tots – the original). The idea was to zoot in and out, buy what I needed and get back to this weekend's event planning.

And then, a hesitant nudge from behind – a gentleman asking if I could help him read the writing on the SALE banner below the Nik Naks shelf. And so unfolded an interaction that choked me up completely – I ended up shopping with Moses, meandering up and down the aisles in search of sale items which might enable him to treat his family to as good an Easter meal as possible.

Was he a chancer playing on my damsel heart-strings? I think not. For he never hinted at anything, never asked for anything … and was genuinely grateful when I helped him with the math. Was I tempted to contribute financially? Of course! It took every ounce of will-power to prevent myself from either giving him a R50 note or buying him an Easter dessert (strangely, I felt not to do either). We sorted a pretty decent meal for Moses and the smile he gave me at the end of our shopping spree will remain with me for some time.

Today I am reminded how important it is to pause. To bring one’s rushed routine to a halt long enough to consider the world around you. Look people in the eye. Smile. Never become so busy that an opportunity to lend a helping hand passes one by. Give financially – when prompted to do so. On all other occasions – give of yourself.

Today’s lesson is by no means related specifically to my role as leader, nor is it particularly profound. But, as leader, perhaps the ability to pause somehow becomes more difficult as responsibilities increase. Perhaps the profoundness comes in when one manages to keep a handle on responsibilities without ever forgetting that people remain forever most important. Certainly, leaders who manage this one thing, are among those I respect and appreciate most.

May I never become too busy to make a difference in the life of my neighbour. No matter how small that difference may seem.